Prevention is a very defensive mindset though and I wouldn’t recommend it. Or alternatively you can start with “I think”: So you are lowering the risk for your social value in case some random guy is going to pretend they don’t know you. You: yeah I think we met before at Sarah’s party, you’re Matt right? How’s your night going Him: hey man, how have you been, I think I know you. You (I know this guy but he hasn’t said hi so far): hey man how you doing If you know someone but they haven’t said hi yet, you can approach warmly as if you were long time friends and let them do the first move If he had pretended not to remember either, it would have been a neutral interaction instead.Īnd now the big question is: what you do then? When Someone Doesn’t Remember You #1 Prevention: let them remember you first On the other hand, he remembered everything about her, thus communicating it was a big thing for him.Īnd now he brought all those issues to the surface, where they are obvious to everyone. Notice that as he reminds her one issue becomes obvious in their relationship: she didn’t care enough to remember. Which is the definition of kissing up.Īs an example, take a look at this scene from Play the Game. Socially, you are giving value while they are taking value from you. When you keep reminding of how where and when you met you keep caring for someone who doesn’t care about you. It’s a sign of social climbing and socially belligerent attitude. Or trying to make themselves look superior. Pretending not to remember instead means they are willingly trying to make you look bad. Pretending not to remember means power move When someone does not remember you they are communicating you were not important enough.

Or that you were important for them and that they cared. When someone remembers you well, it’s a way of communicating that they liked you. It’s pleading, it makes you look insecure and it slots you as the subordinate of the relationship. I remember everything about you, and I am so insignificant you don’t remember anything about me? He even suspects some people “forget” him on purpose, and he’s still playing onto their hands -head-wall banging-.Įxplaining all the details is like saying Nice way of setting yourself up for a triple crown of failure :). This popular post of an otherwise likable chap is the perfect example of what most do wrong when people don’t remember you.īasically, when his conversation partner doesn’t seem to remember him he explains all the details of when, where and how they met. No matter if they are pretending not to remember you or they really don’t, you do not remind them. How you react will depend on which one you are dealing with.īut whichever case you are dealing with, you still never do this: Don’t Remind Them! They are pretending not to remember you (a Power Move).#1 Prevention: let them remember you firstįirst of all, there are two different cases of people not remembering you:.

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